“A friend loves at all times.” Proverbs 17:17
“Friendship is acting out God’s love for people in tangible ways. We were made to represent the love of God in each other’s lives, so that each person we walk through life with has a profound sense of God’s love for them.” – Shauna Niequest.
I truly believe that friendship is one of the biggest blessings God bestowed to us - and through it, we have the opportunity to share His love to some of the most amazing individuals in our lives. Being a good friend isn’t always the easiest task, but both through biblical word and inspiration from my own amazing friends, I’ve come up with a little “How To Be A Jesus Lovin’ Pal.” Check it out below!
- Always remind them that they are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14 is such an amazing reminder of beauty. God took his time creating us; we weren’t thrown together with Modge Podge or super glue. How easily we forget this, especially if we’ve been hurt by someone we care about. As a friend, it’s your job to remind us that we are not only special to you – but to our Heavenly Father as well.
- Keep in touch. My sweet friends Rachel and Caroline inspired number two. They are my best friends in the world, and they are incredible at keeping in touch. We met my freshman year in college and even though we live in different places now, we still talk every day. Your friends should always know that you are there for them – maybe not physically, but always in heart.
- Don’t gossip. If you’ve ever been hurt by gossip, you already know its effects. But the Bible tells us in Proverbs 16:28, “A dishonest man spreads strife, a whisperer separates close friends.” Don’t let the urge to be catty ruin a friendship. I promise there is no secret worth losing a friend over.
- Laugh with them & cry with them. Romans 12:15 says, “Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.” My life is incredibly joyful, but my tear ducts are beyond control. I am so lucky to have friends that love me through it. I hope you do too. Don’t be a friend who only wants to be around when things are jolly and swell. Be there to pass the tissue, too.
- Love at all times. Proverbs 17:17 covers all the bases of what being a good friend truly means. You must love that person unconditionally - whenever, wherever, whatever the circumstance may bring. “All times” does not just mean when it’s convenient for you.
I hope that if you have friends that don’t treat you right, you cut your losses and don’t waste your time. But if they do treat you well, realize it. And when you count your blessings, count your friends a hundred times!
Call them tonight and tell them you love them. “When you find people who not only tolerate your quirks but celebrate them with glad cries of ‘me too!’ be sure to cherish them. Because these weirdos are your tribe.”